The other day, I was asked a question by a reader and friend.
She asked: “It’s hard for me to stay motivated and consistently make progress towards my goals. How do I get motivated and stay motivated?“
It’s a good question, because when we are motivated, we stay consistent and we make progress. We’ll stay up late, read all the books, put in the extra work, develop the skills, create the habits and do all the little things necessary to realize our goal.
It’s that simple.
This got me thinking about the times where I was driven like an obsessive maniac to accomplish a goal, and the times I was unmotivated and failed.
After searching through my stories, and re-reading the lessons of great leaders and peak performers, I noticed that there are 4 fundamentals to getting motivated and staying motivated.
When we understand and implement these fundamentals we create unstoppable motivation and achieve our goal.
This post is going to be very different than anything else I’ve put out.
It’s going to challenge you, push you, make you uncomfortable and hopefully inspire you. It starts with a story about dealing with success barriers and follows with 5 crazy things I did to overcome my fear of rejection.
Some of them are obvious, others are downright silly and they all can help you (if you actually do them).
My hope is that you can learn from my experience and complete at least one of the five challenges. If you do, I’d love to hear about your experience. You can either post in the comments section or send me a email.
Look at Kobe, Oprah, Musk, Schwarzenegger, Gates, Buffet and Mother Theresa – they don’t try to be someone else. They understand where they have talent and where they are weak. They know exactly who they are.
Kobe isn’t a governor, Oprah and Musk don’t play professional basketball, Schwarzenegger isn’t a speech therapist, Gates and Buffet aren’t bodybuilders, and Mother Theresa didn’t start an electric car company. They play to their strengths and use their talents to create world class results.
If you want to replicate their success, you must know yourself. This article discusses 5 different strategies to know exactly who YOU are and grow the leader within you.
We couldn’t focus.
We couldn’t get things done.
We were tired.
Our minds were always racing.
We couldn’t sleep.
We kept making mistakes.
And our To-Do lists kept growing and growing and growing.
We tried to fix it…. by adding more to our to-do’s and doing more things at the same time. This only made it worse.
To make matters more confusing we blamed it on gluten, high fructose corn syrup, vaccines, mercury in our fish, fracking, and the depleting ozone layer. Mass media fed on our fears and convinced us that the problem was everywhere and there was nothing we could do. All of this noise confused us and led us away from the root cause of the problem.
It was right under our nose the whole time. You’re probably holding it in your hand.
Many books are written and released each year. Most of them are bad, some of them are good, a few are great, and the top .001% are exceptional.
It’s rare that an author is a great writer AND has deep domain expertise. This is a list of books by authors who are both.
Who’s this book list for? The creative/visionary/big picture thinker who wants to awaken their inner genius.
My friend Dave is disappointed with life.
His job sucks, his life lacks meaning, his income is low, and he’s not confident.
All of these issues stem from what he see’s in the mirror. He’s skinny. Like really skinny.
It may be a compliment to call a girl skinny, but It’s the kiss of death for a guy. It not only insults his general manliness, but makes him feel weak, feminine, and soft.
Because he hates the way he looks, he finds it hard to be happy, grateful and assertive in his daily life. You would think this would be enough to start lifting weights and pounding down protein shakes. It isn’t.
Like most of us, he has tried to start an exercise habit, but failed.
In this article, I’m going to show you how to create one that sticks.
We live in a magic pill society.
- Get rich in 30 days!
- Lose 20 Lbs in 20 workouts!
- Find the woman/man of your dreams in 7 easy steps!
After being exposed to so many different marketing messages, we start to believe that we’re special (it’s everyone else who needs to figure it out!).
Ramit Sethi calls this “Special Snowflake Syndrome”, Andre 3000 of OutKast calls it “thinking your shit don’t stink” and Charlie Munger calls it “delusional confidence”. These phrases all point back to same fundamental flaws of human psychology.
- We can’t see how our daily habits affect us in the long term.
- We think we’re going to become an overnight success.
- We think we’ll avoid the decades of hard work that typically goes into building a life worth living.
- We think we deserve it.
Unfortunately, you can’t avoid the truth.
Another day dawns. Typically, it goes something like this…
The alarm sounds on your smartphone. Ugh. You grab it, hit snooze, and… You awake to look at the clock and it’s been well over an hour. “WTF just happened!?” The day is now well underway. The detour has left you scrambling for time and running late for your work, without achieving anything you intended.
A wonderfully unproductive start.
The day then continues on a sidewards course. You still feel half asleep, you’re angry that you didn’t get to eat and exercise like you wanted, and you just can’t seem to get on top of things. It’s like you’re always one step behind…
Does this sound familiar? Sadly, it’s an all too regular occurrence, especially as your workload increases, your commitments heighten, and you try to cram more into each and every day. You seem to have more to do, and less time to do it.
How do you break this destructive cycle? What if there was a way to put yourself on the right foot as soon as the alarm sounds? What if, when you wake up, you’re able to create your most productive day ever and really kickstart your life into gear instead?
In our go-go-go society we rarely take the time to rest, rejuvenate and recover. And this won’t be a lecture about “overdoing it” and I won’t bother telling you to avoid caffeine. Instead let’s focus on damage control in the moment and ways to keep you performing at a high level when you need it the most.
As the leader of your group, tribe or organization, you can’t afford to break down. Your people need you.
Who’s This For? This post is for the high performance investor-entrepreneur who loves work they do and won’t stop. It’s practical advise that you can implement in your daily habits to deal with burnout and stress and as they come along.
There a major problem with StrengthFinder Tests. They are meant for people who are unchanging and static. For the average Joe or Jane who watches 6 hours a TV everyday and goes to a job that they tolerate for 40+ years and then retires; they work fine.
These tests focus on who you are right now. Not who you want to be and what you want to do. They don’t integrate important factors such as your values and the environment you grew up in.
If you are a dynamic and constantly developing person, than you are going to need a different solution.
What follows below is a strengthsfinder for the dynamic, developing, multipotentialite who understands that who they are today and they person they will be in 10 years is massively different.